I have a collection of cookbooks, and I used to love trying out new recipes. Every time I make a recipe, I give it a rating, so that I remember what I thought about it. Recently though, I have stopped cooking as much. The time spent in the kitchen, piles of dishes, and cost of ingredients just doesn’t seem worth it most of the time, especially on busy work days. I love good food, but often fall back on easy and quick dinner options or eating out. I haven’t bought a new cookbook in a long time, because I’ve made a conscious decision to stop cooking to save time and money.
I have been home for the past couple weeks, however, recovering from surgery. I am finally starting to feel a little better, but I am still on a soft food diet. So I decided to pull out one of my cookbooks and try to make something. Today I made a Gruyère and Parmesan soufflé from a Bon Appetit cookbook. It was tasty, although the Gruyère tasted even better just shaved right off the block.
It’s not terribly interesting or creative, but here is my cheesy soufflé. The consistency and rise came out perfectly, which are unusual for me.
Patience. A simple virtue that I wish I could practice evenly in all areas of my life. Compared to many people, I am pretty patient when it comes to everyday inconveniences. I can usually handle traffic delays, slow service in a restaurant, or a long line at the store. Where I find my patience most often wearing thin is with the people I love the most – my daughter and husband.
Why is that it is easier to be kind towards strangers and acquaintances than to our own families? My theory is that it is because it is less risky. We know that the people we love will forgive us time and again for yelling at them in anger, whereas a co-worker or other acquaintance may not.
I know it shouldn’t be this way. I shouldn’t snap at my family for the slightest inconvenience. I know this intellectually, but I still find it difficult to put into place.
I came across this quote. Is that the answer? Fake it until you make it? It is certainly better than showing your frustration, especially in a parenting situation. But ideally, I would like to not only sound calm, but actually be calm.
One of our jobs as a parent is to help teach our children how to regulate their emotions. We do this through example. It is imperative that I learn to be patient, so that I can pass that skill onto my daughter. It is so much easier to have the skill naturally, than to be a grown woman trying to cultivate it.
Patience with my family is a skill that I must practice. I want to live in a calm and loving home, and I need to do my part to make sure that happens. Sometimes my husband has to remind me that I’m overreacting in a parenting situation. Other times, I’m overreacting towards him and my daughter is the one to notice the tension and remind me to be kind.
What do you do to remind yourself to be patient with your loved ones?
I have an addiction to my phone and laptop. I spend far too much of my time scrolling through Facebook or checking emails. I know this is a problem, and yet it persists. The magnetic letters on my fridge remind me to “be present.” I have the Space app on my phone to track my phone usage, and send me little reminders like “isn’t it time you took a break?” And yet my five year old daughter still finds opportunities to say things like “you pay more attention to your phone than me.” Nothing like a pre-schooler to tell you the truth.
I actually held out on getting a smart phone longer than most, because I predicted that I would struggle with finding the right phone-life balance. In 2011, I went on a work trip and remember sitting on the bus quietly while everyone played on their phones. Seeing as I’m also an introvert and don’t often engage others in small talk, I had only my own thoughts to entertain me. It was not long after that trip that I decided to get my first smart phone.
I do believe that a lot of great things come from social media. It is a great way to connect and share information. That is why I have not tried removing social media as a whole from my life. The Space app is a great tool when I actually utilize it and don’t just ignore its comments, as I’ve tended to do lately. Like I stated earlier, preschoolers are probably the best protection against overuse of the internet. Sometimes I just have to listen to my daughter and stop everything to color a picture of My Little Pony or play a round of Hide and Seek. What do you do to remind yourself to live in the real world and not just in the internet world?